Category: Sex Addiction

Porn Addict as an Identity—is it Helpful?

Shoes in the sand and shadow The way we think about ourselves as people is incredibly complex. We can certainly harm, confuse or liberate ourselves with the way we are using labels and identifiers. The same is true for a label or identity of “porn addict”. Is this a helpful term? Potentially—for some it fosters a desire to change, yet for [...]
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Leaving Sexual Addiction Requires Taking Care of All of Your Life: Here’s How

Happy man with bike When you have a splinter in your finger it absorbs an inordinate amount of your attention because it aches so much! Whilst struggling to get the splinter out you may forgo a number of other things you need, or loose sight of the more basic aspects of looking after yourself. In a similar way, when [...]
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Core Needs That Can Fuel Sexual Addiction and Our Faulty Solutions

Man and water If you have a little boat and you hit a few rough waves, it may be sufficient to simply bail out some water with a bucket. As you sail on, you say to yourself subconsciously, “oh, that was easy, and I’m glad I thought of that”. Then you hit a real storm—swells and waves—and you [...]
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How To Deal With Sexual Temptation and Impulses

Man standing in the desert One of the hardest things to do in with any addiction, compulsion or temptation is to turn away when you most feel it drawing you in. At this point it becomes an emotional, mental, physical challenge that you can learn to win. I heard it well said, “It is like staring into the face of [...]
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Sexual Addiction Recovery, Trustworthiness and Accountability

Trust in the sand One of the most vital and life giving threads of the human experience is deeply connected relationships. These relationships require trust to grow, and without these relationships we suffer from depression, anxiety, fear, fatigue, hopelessness and more. Disrupting our Connection You will know if you have ever spent a major holiday alone just how crucial [...]
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